Sunday, August 10, 2014

Dealing with #Grief

At one time or another in our lives, we will all lose someone we love and will grapple with issues of grief.  In a two year time period, I lost one of my best friends, my mother and my dog.  I found that for each situation, I grieved differently.  And I learned a few things.  One was that people are more likely to express sympathy about losing a pet than losing a person.  I am not quite sure why.  Another thing I learned is that some people you would expect to be there for you, are not (fortunately, others are).  Through the loss of both my friend and mother, there were people in my life whom were close to me that did not acknowledge the death.  Did not call.  Did not send a card.  Some of these people never did.  Others, finally, in a passing conversation at a much, much later time, acknowledged it.  To this day, I still don't understand why.

And then there were the others.  The ones who showed up with a meal upon my return back from out of state.  Or who were with me along the way on the journey through my mother's illness.  The ones who brought me flowers.  Or sent a text to let me know they were thinking of me.  The ones who let me cry to them.  The ones that gave me advice and guidance.  They were a blessing.

After my friend died, I came across this blog where a woman was sharing her grief and what she learned.  Although all of it was not true for me, I know that it may be true for others.  She had such a great response that the printed it all up in a beautiful document to share with others.  Please take the time to read and share Teryn O'Brien's 15 Things I Wished I Had Known About Grief.  It may help you or someone you know.  This was followed by Advice and Thoughts About Grief from her readers.

1 comment:

Unknown said...

Oh, sweet Ann, I totally understand and to deal with that atop the grief can be overwhelming. I've had very similar experiences. It's good you're able to talk about it... as time passes more peace will surround you. Hugs & love.

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