Friday, September 12, 2014

The Birthday Reminder I Don't Want to Be Reminded Of

Before my car accident, I had a nearly impeccable memory for numbers.  Birth dates were included in that.  I remembered all my friends and family's birthdays, anniversaries and other important dates.  But 18 years ago, I was in a car accident where I was hit from behind and although I had a seat belt on, I ended up on the steering wheel.  Ever since, I have had memory problems, mainly with recall.  So, when it comes to birth dates and such, I rely heavily on calendar reminders.

This week, I got one such reminder that I don't want to be reminded of.  It is of a friend's birthday.  A friend that is no longer with us.  My friend, who was tragically murdered.  (You can read more about it HERE). When it popped up on my phone, my first thought was I don't want to be reminded of this.  I don't want to be reminded that I no longer need this reminder.  Instead of reminding me to scurrying about to get a card in the mail, it is just a painful reminder that he is no here anymore.  My heart swells with pain.  It swells with sadness for his family and other friends.  It swells with sadness for everyone's life whom he touched.  And most of all, it swells with sadness for those who never had the opportunity to know him.  Those whose lives he wasn't able to touch because it was cut short.  You see, Chris was one of those guys.  The type of guy who made an impression on everyone he met because he truly cared about people.  In his career, he worked with children and families and gave and gave.  And he made a difference.  He was able to provide hope and healing to so many.  Chris wiped tears.  He loved the hurt.  He wanted to save the children.  He gave hope.

And so the reminder pops up.  And although sad, I am reminded to celebrate in my heart what a great man he was and to push myself to be more like him.

After all, deleting the reminder, doesn't delete the memories.  Rest in peace, Chris.


Hobbies on a Budget said...

Tough reminder to get, but such good memories of a special person in your life and so many others!

Amy said...

Sorry! Glad you are remembering the fact that he impacted so many in a positive way. Sounds like we need more people like him in the world. Thanks for sharing this! Thinking of you during this difficult time.

Unknown said...

Oh, that is a tough reminder to get! Like you said, you were able to remember what a fine person he was and celebrate his life. Hugs!

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